Monday, October 03, 2005

Law School And Relationships

It is tough.
If law school is going to screw with a relationship, this is probably the reason why. You just can't be demanding of a person who's seriously committed to law school. People seriously committed to law school will understand what I mean: there's a certain amount of effort below which you may not dip without compromising your master plans, plans which ideally include your significant other as well. They'll benefit as much as you from your success. Wise significant others will understand this. Priceless ones will take an active part in helping you succeed. But if you're coupled with someone who demands your time when you can least afford it (or vice versa), yeah, that could be a problem.

At the end of the day, it's your call. Law school is an enormous weight on your time and your relationships. Even the most ideal match -- someone who shares your values and understands why you need to be in a certain place -- can still devolve into viciousness when either party feels slighted. And of course, it's just as easy to sacrifice your law school efforts for the relationship as it is to do the reverse. Only you can say which of the two will be more valuable for you to preserve in the long term. Just be sure that that's where you're focused: on the long term.

Because that's where the love should take you.

3 comments:

Fitz-Hume said...

So true. And a lesson I learned the hard way.

Wayne said...

Don't make me cry my own tears Fitzy.

Fitz-Hume said...

No reason to cry, Wayne. Believe me, it all worked out for the best.